About Shirley Shani, MFT, CT®, GTC
The therapy side
We’ve never met, yet there are two things I know about you:
- You’re the expert on your own life, so you’re the only one who knows what works for you (and what doesn’t).
- You’re the hero of your own story, you don’t need me to save you. However, you might need a sidekick, and I’d be honored if it’s me.
The first question I’ll ask you is “What is your best hope of coming to see me?” in other words – what do you want to gain from coming to therapy? I ask that because I want to know where you want to go on our journey together. Think about going into a taxi– would the driver ask you where you don’t want to go, or where you do want to go? If you choose to tell me your problem, I’ll listen and validate and be empathetic – I just won’t ask about it. Once we figure out where it is that we’re going, we’ll chart a course to get there. Because you’re the expert, you’ll tell me where we’re going, and you’ll tell me when we get there, and we’ll end our journey.
The education side
I am a doctoral candidate with the National University’s Marriage and Family Therapy program. My MA is from Northcentral University’s Marriage and Family Therapy, with a specialty in Medical Family Therapy. I am a certified thanatologist – which is the professional word for grief counseling. Last, but not least – I am a master practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
The personal side
A little more personally: I am a Jewish-Israeli woman with an American citizenship, a feminist, and LGBTQIA+- ally, married to a wonderful man and the homeschooling mother of amazing twin teen girls and a dog. Love to listen to and play music, read, watch TV (you might have realized I love some superheroes by now), walk my dog in nature, and good food.