My first question to you will be, “What is your best hope from coming to see me?” – this is where you tell me where we’re going, what is the next best version of yourself. Based on your answer, I’ll ask more questions, that will not only clarify where we are going but how to get there. When I ask you about your past, it’ll be about past triumphs – where you were able to be that best version. How you created change. How you did what was right for you. You are more than welcome to tell me about what the problem is and what does not work, if you wish. My questions, however, will always be about what does work for you. We’ll tweak and fine-tune until we are where you want to be.
One more thing you need to know – when you change, every system around you changes with you. So if you have a relational issue (in any relationship), but you’re the only one coming to therapy, the relationship will still change. Which is why I’ll ask you about other noticing the changes you’ve made. It’s also why, even if the problem is bigger than just you – you can still come to therapy, alone, and it will still work.
We end our process when you tell me you achieved best hope.
